A good first date is all about communication.
In fact, we’ve all been there at some point in our lives.
But how do you communicate with someone, particularly when they don’t seem to know how to communicate with you?
To help you communicate better, I’ve compiled some of my favourite first date tips from dating experts, and put them to the test in my book, “How to Date Like a Pro”.
“I’d rather date someone who has their own story, than someone who thinks I’m shallow.”
– Anne Marie Miller, author of “I’m No One’s Girl” article A woman can never be too sure about a man.
It’s all too easy to fall for the romantic image of the perfect guy who’ll just give you a hug, or promise to give you the date.
This isn’t the case.
If you’re looking for someone who’s a little bit more open-minded, you’ll find that the perfect date is often someone who doesn’t know what he wants from a relationship, or who can’t stand your presence.
If that’s you, here’s some tips to help you make the most of your first date.
“If I want to date someone, I have to tell them I want them to do something.”
– Michael, author, “I Am Not a Boy” article When you’ve been out on a date, don’t be afraid to be spontaneous.
This is a good thing for both parties, but if you can’t get into a good groove and don’t get that spark of romance, you may not have a great first date, or even a great relationship.
So, how do I get that sparks?
If you want a romantic relationship, you need to be able to tell a good story.
A story is the glue that holds relationships together.
It is the backbone of any relationship, whether it’s dating, a romantic connection, or a work relationship.
To be able do this, you have to have a good narrative.
You can’t tell a story if you don’t have a solid foundation.
You must have a strong sense of your story, and you must be willing to let go of your past in order to be open-ended.
“[People] just want to be left alone with you, and they think you’re boring.”
– Amanda, author “I think it’s important for a guy to be upfront and honest, to tell me what’s on his mind, so that I can make an informed decision.”
– Katie, author The more you let your guard down, the more likely you are to end up with someone who is truly interested in you.
You want someone who knows you well, and who can understand that you want to spend more time together than they’re willing to give.
To find someone who shares your story and who is open to connecting, you’re going to need to find someone that you trust.
You need to look for someone that shares your life, and that’s not going to be someone who wants to do the talking.
Find out who you can trust, and then go out there with the right mindset and approach.
What are your first dates like?
Tell us about them in the comments below.
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